Emotionally-focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Your partner just did that same thing that annoys you.  Even though you have brought it to his or her attention many times, they continue to do those things that trigger you.  Frustrated, you respond back to your partner in a way that only makes the intensity level go up.  Your relationship is spiraling deeper and deeper into despair.  You are not sure your relationship is going to survive.  Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) may be exactly what you need.

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a form of couples therapy that gets down to the relational dynamics between your partner and you.  Rather than staying in the content of the fight to determine who’s right or who’s wrong, EFT works with each part of the relationship to get down to an emotional level to identify what is getting activated inside.  

 

For example, maybe your partner withdraws and shuts down any time you bring up an issue.  As you watch them pull away, you feel more energy on the inside and try harder to get their attention.  However, the more you try to get their attention, the more your partner withdraws.  This goes back-and-forth leaving both of you stuck and feeling worse than before you started the interaction.

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Jeremy has been formally trained to use EFT to help you identify your relational dynamics that lead to distress, stop that spiral, and create healthier ways of interacting with each other.  You don’t have to live in despair – you can live in hope and connection in your relationship.